Young Mummy Killing it...

The best compliment ever is being called a "good mum" but I think the term is not used quite enough. We all make decisions on how to raise our children and no matter what you decide, If you have a happy child you are a good mother, because at the end of the day that is what is important!!

Just because I choose to just feed my daughter organic doesn't make me any more of a mother than the next. I also feel that when you are seen as a young mother, people automatically stereotype you as a bad mother. I think that young people can be better mums than older parents for the simple fact that we have the energy and patience to dedicate to our children. I know in some aspects it may be harder (like the fact our partners are still maturing, yes they are at least 5 years younger in maturity level) and we may not all have mortgages or a 80k+ income, but with children it's the simpler things that make them happy, the fact that we can take them to the park or bake peppa pig cakes for hours! We are all doing an amazing job in our own little way and I think it's time we work that title and fight through the common stereotypes placed upon us. We are all queens with little mimi me's who if we do our job right will be more fortunate and fabulous than us.

I feel like health visitors look down on you if you bottle fed and yes I understand that Breast feeding has loads of benefits but some mums just do not like to Breast feed but that still makes them amazing because a happy mother is a happy child!! I had a flash back earlier to being in the babies ward, and the lady in the cubicle in front of me was so depressed and in anguish because she couldn't Breast feed her baby, the little baby just would not latch on and he was crying and crying non stop, the mid wives suggested that she should bottle feed him but she was adamant that she didn't want to, the baby kept on crying for the 3 days I was in there (my natural labour got a bit peak at the end) the lady did not stop crying and she kept on arguing with her boyfriend and her friends and family would come there and she was just forcing something that she just couldn't do and that was making her unhappy. I feel like we all set ourselves goals and when we are pregnant we have a plan and an imagine of what we are going to be like and what we are going to do as parents, but it doesn't always go to plan. I got a bedside crib because I was going to put Milena in there so that she wouldn't be in my bed and what happened??? nearly 6 months down the line she is still in my bed and I'm not really stressed about it, it's what makes us both happy right now and yes it may be a bit harder to get her out of my bed but I will cross that bridge when it comes to it, right now I'm just doing what makes me feel comfortable and I think that is what is important, do not force things just go with the flow and everything will fall in its perfectly imperfect place.

If jars and pouches make you happy, give the baby jars and pouches, but I would encourage everyone to try and make their own baby food because I find it so easy and entertaining. It is part of my day and it gives me something to do (making nap time and bed time come that bit quicker) and I know that my baby is eating well. I feel like you should try it, if it's not for you, or like many woman you are busy and don't like cooking, then don't do it. But even if you can find an hour in your week you can always freeze everything and then give it to your baby as you go!!! I make everything as I give it to her unless I am going out. If I am on the go (which is most days, I hate being at home for the whole day) I will wake up 20 minutes earlier and make her her lunch and dinner (which can be the same thing btw, sweet potato is life, they love it and it's so good for them, just mix it with any veg and it's sweet and has a smooth consistency!) I will be posting some recipes for those who are interested!!!

But I completely went off topic, pat yourself on the back boo boo because regardless of what you are doing and yes some days you will feel shit and you may be doubting yourself (we all do) if you know your baby is happy and you are doing good by him/her pat yourself on the back girl and carry on slaying (with sick in your hair)

Majo xxx